Self-esteem in children influences their well-being, academic performance, and interpersonal relationships. Positive parenting offers several tools to strengthen self-esteem, but it is crucial to understand how these tools work and to what extent they are effective.

One of the most commonly used tools is positive reinforcement. According to Carol Dweck, author of Mindset: The New Psychology of Success, it is more beneficial to praise efforts rather than results. This approach helps children develop a growth mindset, where challenges are seen as learning opportunities rather than threats or potential punishments. However, it is essential to ask whether this praise is genuine and well-balanced, as excessive flattery can have the opposite effect, creating a dependence on external validation.

Other tools include encouraging autonomy and recognizing personal achievements. For example, allowing a child to make age-appropriate decisions or participate in family tasks can enhance their sense of competence and usefulness. However, it is equally important to consider the following question: Do these practices genuinely strengthen the child's self-esteem, or do they create pressure to meet success standards defined by the parents?

Positive parenting tools must be used thoughtfully and tailored to the individual needs of each child. It is always important to reflect and be attentive to signs of stress or frustration in the child and be ready to adjust the approach accordingly. The goal is to strengthen the child's self-esteem while respecting their pace and unique personality.

References:

• Dweck, Carol S. Mindset: The New Psychology of Success. Random House, 2006.
• Nelsen, Jane. Positive Discipline. Ballantine Books, 1981.
• Grolnick, Wendy S. The Psychology of Parental Control: How Well-Meant Parenting Backfires. Psychology Press, 2002.
• Filliozat, Isabelle. Au cœur des émotions de l'enfant. Marabout, 2003.